This can help if:
- You're naturally quiet
- You have trouble asking for help
- You want to know why talking is helpful
- You want to know who you can talk to
Some people are good at talking, and do it a lot. Some people don't like to talk too much but it can be helpful for everyone. It's worth making an effort to talk through what's going on for you with someone you trust. Good things that can come from talking are:
- It'll help you sort through your thoughts and clarify whatever is going on for you at the time. While all your stuff is internal, it's hard to see how it really works. Once you've had to say it out loud, it gets easier to get hold of.
- If you just worry about your problems without talking to someone about them, they probably start to seem worse and bigger than they are. Talking will cut them down to size.
- Someone who's not involved in whatever's bothering you might suggest options you haven't thought of.
- If you're talking to someone neutral, but caring, they won't take sides or push an agenda.
- Talking is like a pressure valve for your head. Switch it on once in a while.
Talk to who?
You're going to want to pick someone you trust to talk about things that are bothering you. It might be a friend, family member, teacher, doctor or other person you see often. Get some tips on communicating for ideas on how to express yourself. You may also want to conisder talking to a counsellor, psychologist or psychiatrist. They can help you get the skills and help of someone who's trained to be a good person to talk to, so it's worth considering too.
Some counsellors specialise, so you can get someone who's experienced in dealing with whatever's going on – whether it's drugs, sadness, anger, sex, stress, family issues, school, or anything else. Read more on finding services or professionals if you're interested in finding a counsellor.