All about being single

Being single can be both a blessing and a curse, depending on which way you look at it. Remembering that you’re not the only one can definitely curb feelings of isolation that people sometimes experience when they’re single. But it’s also important to remember the friends you have and not to sacrifice what you want just to be in a relationship. Ignore the couple brigade and try to focus on the stuff you want to do. Being single can have a lot of benefits, you might just have to look and find them.

This might help if you:

  • Are single and happy
  • Don’t want to be single
  • Want to know more about the benefits of being single
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You’re not the only one

Being single isn’t just the default status and having a relationship with someone is a choice - not a requirement for life. Many people choose to stay single and enjoy the benefits of the single lifestyle. Being single reflects nothing about who you are and your value as a person. It also doesn’t mean you’ll be single forever if you don’t want to be.

The next time you’re out and about, look around at your friends, acquaintances or classmates and think about whether they’re dating. Chances are you’ll find that not everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend.

It’s also worth remembering that not all relationships are good ones. Just because someone has a boyfriend or girlfriend, doesn’t mean all is smooth sailing in couple-ville. Everyone has their challenges and having a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t automatically make life perfect.

Friends have benefits

Being single doesn’t mean being lonely. When you’re single you have more opportunities to do different things and meet different people. The things you do can also include opportunities to forge new friendships. Even if you’re an introvert, this might be an excellent time to nurture your extroverted side.

Make this time a priority to create meaningful friendships and work on your existing ones:

Don’t sacrifice what you want

Being in a relationship can seem like a really cool idea, and when the right person comes along it can be a great experience. But not all relationships are created equal. It’s important not to be so focused on having a relationship that you forget the real purpose behind being in a relationship: Feeling good about yourself and building a positive partnership.

Try not to sacrifice who you are, or what you want (whatever that may be), just so you can say that you have a girlfriend/boyfriend to your mates. Not being in a relationship is far better than being in a bad one.

Ignore the couple brigade

In a lovey-dovey consumer-driven society, where all magazines, movies and books ever mention is falling in love, it’s not uncommon to feel like the only single person in the village.

Unfortunately, it’s also not uncommon to come across people who will question why anyone would ever be single. They might even imply that there’s something wrong with you if you’re single and happy! The best response is just to say “I prefer being single” and try to change the topic of conversation to something different.

Do the stuff you want to do

One of the benefits of being single is that you have spare time to do the stuff you really want to do!

Think of all the options you have for your future; you’re young, you’re free and you’re independent. We all still have people who want to know our whereabouts and want to share in our plans for the future, but there are still a lot of decisions that, as young adults, we can decide and act upon.

What can I do now?

  • Get tips on making new friends.
  • Look out for social events, clubs or groups in your local area.
  • If you’re interested in finding a relationship, give internet dating a go.
Last reviewed: 06 August, 2015
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3 Comments

  • Big Macc    (194 days ago)

    This is me at my school all my friends have boyfriends and I am the only girl in the group that doesn't have a boyfriend and it kind of feels weird sometimes.

  • Ben-RO    (556 days ago)

    What sort of stats would you like @Forest_Green?

  • FOREST_GREEN    (560 days ago)

    A fact-sheet without stats just sounds like a patronising talk from an older family member to try to make me feel better.