All about violence

Violence is something that causes harm, or fear of harm. It comes in many forms, and happens for a number of different reasons. Drugs and alcohol often make it worse, however, there are things you can do to deal with violence.

This could be for you if:

  • You get angry often, or know someone who does
  • You're a victim of violence
  • You want to stop violence
  • You want to be less angry
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What counts as violence?

Violence is basically anything that hurts other people or makes them afraid of being hurt. It comes in different forms, like:

  • Physical violence: making someone feel physically intimidated, including sexual assault.
  • Emotional violence: making threats, putting someone down, frightening them verbally or blackmailing them.
  • Social violence: this kind of violence often happens alongside other types. Teasing someone, isolating them or making fun of them as a group are all kinds of social violence.
  • Spiritual violence: not allowing someone to have their own beliefs, opinions or values.

Where does violence come from?

There are many factors that can make a person violent. People can be violent because:

  • They're frustrated, angry or pissed-off
  • They want to control someone
  • They're repeating patterns they were taught 

If you're prone to violence, there are ways that you can manage your anger and behaviour so that it's not violent. Remember that violence is not okay, and in most cases is actually illegal.

Stopping Violence

At the end of the day, if you're being violent the only person that can stop you is yourself, and the only violence you can definitely put a stop is your own. To help put a stop to violent behaviour you should try to:

  • Work out what makes you violent or angry. Knowing the triggers will make it easier to avoid them.
  • Look around to see if your violence is hurting people and damaging relationships. If it is, work on reversing or undoing this.
  • Talk to someone. It's hard to deal with anger and violence on your own. Talking to someone like a counsellor, mental health worker, nurse, doctor or psychologist can help you.

It's also important to note, that if you're exhibiting violent behaviour drugs and alcohol can make it worse as they reduce your inhibitions. You can get help with drug and alcohol problems so they don't result in violence. A doctor, nurse, counsellor or psychologist can help you with this. You can even find professionals who specialise in drug and alcohol issues.

What can I do now?

Last reviewed: 07 August, 2015
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