This might help if you’re:
In school or tertiary education
Struggling to get work done
You don’t like your course
Not keeping up with the rest of the class
Unable to complete a course
The challenge of failing
Failing a subject can put a pretty big dent on your self-confidence. But even though it might be a huge disappointment, it’s worth keeping it all in perspective. Recognising that failing has little to do with your talents and abilities as a person can be the first step to feeling better.
When it comes to failing assessment or whole subjects/courses, there are a couple of things you can do to make you get back into it and work on building your confidence up again.
Common reasons for failing: Struggling to get work done.
Sometimes there’s too much going on. You have friends, family, work, relationships and general life stuff. Fitting study into a hectic schedule can sometimes be a hugely overwhelming task. If this is the reason for failing, it’s a matter of working out how to balance it all. Deciding what your priorities are, time management and having the ability to step back and say no is the key.
Don’t like your course.
You chose your elective or course thinking it was just the thing for you. Then you unfortunately discover it's not what you expected. This happens! And just because it’s not for you that doesn’t mean you won’t find something that you like. Have a look around, check out your options and see if there’s another course or subject that appeals a bit more.
Not keeping up.
The challenge with school and higher ed is that each person in the class has a different learning style and speed. Teachers and lecturers often try to aim their classes at the majority - the medium speed learners. If you feel you’re lagging and not able to keep up, don’t be afraid to talk to your teacher or lecturer about what you can do. The sooner you talk to someone about it, the easier it will be to resolve. Your speed of learning doesn’t reflect anything about your intelligence or ability.
Not able to complete the course.
For whatever reason, sometimes we just have to bow out of a course or subject that’s not working well. Whether it’s to do with personal stuff or just generally feeling overwhelmed, it’s nothing to feel bad about. If the reason has to do with how you’re feeling or if you’re just too stressed to complete it, you might be experiencing something that won’t be cured with a quick fix. You might benefit from reading a bit more about
how to manage stress
The lesson to learn
Even though these are only a couple of the reasons you might be failing, the important message to take away is that failure is just a part of life. Accept that sometimes you nail stuff and sometimes you bomb out. Beating yourself up about it ultimately ends up being unproductive and upsetting. Talking to someone about how to bounce back is usually helpful.
If you feel like it’s really getting to you and you’re feeling worse than just the natural disappointment, it could be worth reading a bit more about
feeling sad all the time
or being so stressed