Being lesbian

i've been together with this girl for about three weeks. we're still getting to know each other. but my feelings are already so strong towards her. i don't know what my problem is, because i seem to make things in my mind seem like everything is wrong. she doesn't know. and when i see her everything is perfect. but when we're not together, when she doesn't call when she saes she will, i just tore myself apart inside. what is wrong with me.

look you shouldnt worry about what your family thinks and if they really love you they will love you for who you are not for who your not. my perents did the same thing to me it will take time but it will happen

look you shouldnt worry about what your family thinks and if they really love you they will love you for who you are not for who your not. my perents did the same thing to me it will take time but it will happen

Hey rim232,

I am really sorry to hear that you feel your community wouldn't be supportive of you sexuality. It must be really hard to feel isolated and confused.  I recomend that you speak to somebody about everything you are going through.  Speaking to somebody will help you organise your thoughts, get things into perspective and release tension.  A professional will be able to help you work through everything you are feeling and come up with strategies to help you feel less alone.

The phone counselling services in the above fact sheet are a really great place to start and a GP's or school counsellors can be really awesome too.

I suggest that you check out this organisation:  http://www.twenty10.org.au/

They work with young people of diverse genders and sexualities under the age of 25 in NSW they provide haeps of awesome serevices.

If you don't live in NSW you can search for services in your local are through the Twenty 10 website at this link: http://www.twenty10.org.au/services

Keep reaching Out

Roisin - RO Crew

Sometimes I get so confused, and because I live in the country I really feel like I could never come out. It's so isolating...

This is a great resouce!
I know I am a lesbian but i have no idea how to tell someone. I guess I'm so scared of what people will think of me and judge me for it. Though I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am, i just cant speak up about my feelings.

Hi everybody, I am a mother and my boy has told me a while ago that he is gay - it was totally unexpected and my world, my reality has been altered. I wrote a book on the subject of my feelings and the one truth that is still that- a truth is that my child is mine forever. I love him unconditionally, I love him as he is and I wish I could talk to all parents whose children are not what they think they should be. Nothing has changed I think I even love my child more for his honesty and taking that step closer to being the person that God has created. I wish you all hapiness and courage.
Liza-eli.
  

What a very good resource!

It took me quite a while before I was content with who I was. For a long time I sensed something about me was different, and this was it. I noticed that I could make friends with guys, but I had no intention of taking it further than that.

When I was younger, I got the message that having a boyfriend meant you could be seen as a normal person, so I wanted one, not for love, because loving a guy felt alien to me. Soon, when I realised it wasn't what I wanted, I gave up. It took me a while before my repressed feelings towards women surfaced, and the idea of loving a woman felt more natural to me.

When I eventually came out to my parents, they said that it was OK and natural, and I believed them. However, I haven't told any of my friends yet. I'm too afraid. I currently have a thing for my guy friend's girlfriend, so I can't tell him, definitely. A few other of my friends are highly religious, so they dislike the idea of homosexuality, so that's out of the question. But I'm scared that if they find out, I'll be alone and alienated. I need to tell someone.

It's so great that this resource is here... thank you so much!

I wish I actually knew what I was! I thought I was les, I thought I was bi, I thought I was les again, I have no idea!
I mean, okay, yes I like girls. But then on the other hand, I only seem to crush on guys. But now I seem to have no interest in guys, even though just a week ago I was quite happy with the idea of sex with them :O

@impskip,

im new and im lost. Where do i get help on my sexuality cause i'm struggling with it and its causing alot of anxiety.

Ps: Check out the online forum too ... you should hop on there too and feel free to join in any discussion :)

@Trace, If you personally think it was something you needed to do from your heart, than absolutely.

Hey Laz,

Thanks for the advice, i have tryed to sit down with my parents and discuss everything, she wont seem to listen. I have moved out if home, because things just go heaps hard for me to cope with that and my passed. So today i wrote her a letter in hoping she will read it.

It just says that i havent changed who i was in the passed i am still the same person but just in a relationship and stuff.. do you think its agood idea.

Tracey

@Tracie - Welcome to RO!

I'm sorry to hear that your parents aren't being very accepting - that must make you feel pretty low.
Please take note of those numbers for counselling services in your local area + have a look at the links on the left hand side of the page for more info :)

It's the best idea to find support from people who know what you are going through - because you are not alone in feeling this way. Many groups have been set up for young people who are feeling disconnected from friends and family because of their sexuality - it would be fantastic to ask a counselling service (like the ones listed above or Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800) what support groups and centres are available in your local area.

Remember - you are not alone :)

Hey Tracie,

Why wont my parent accpet me for who i am being a lesbian. i feel left out at all family dinner and things we do together