Finding out

They were my friends and I trusted them implicitly with everything that was going on in my life and everything that was going on around us. When I first started to hang around with these guys I asked them ‘’Do you guys do drugs?’’ and the answer straight away came back to me as a definite no. I don’t do drugs myself and it wasn’t that I was not going to like them if they did; I just wanted to know the straight up truth at the start of the relationship. I trusted them, they were my friends.

They started coming out with me a few times, and once we were over at one of their places and they went outside for quite a while leaving me inside. They came inside and they smelt like grass. But I didn’t want to believe it, so I let it go and just pretended that it wasn’t happening. I didn’t want my friends that I trusted to be doing drugs and to be lying to me. Then one night I went over there and I knocked on the front door and they stared at me through the window but they wouldn’t let me in. The house smelt like weed, and they were acting more than weird.

Then the undeniable evidence came, the boys asked me to find something in their box where they keep all their bits and pieces and I accidentally stumbled across the weed stash. I quickly put it back and didn’t tell them that I had found it. But then all the threads started to form a quilt. All the pieces started coming together. The way that they had been acting, the things that they had been hiding from me, and the lying to me.

Then I had to confront them, it was the hardest thing I have ever done. They were my friends and I trusted them. They denied it at first, and wouldn’t admit to me that they had been doing drugs. But I knew the truth. And the fact that they were lying to me again upset me even more. When I did find out the truth from them I discovered that they were doing grass, speed and e’s. I couldn’t be their friend anymore, not because they were doing drugs but because they were lying about it and I couldn’t trust them anymore.

Drugs don’t only ruin your brain cells and yourself physically, but they ruin relationships. Drugs can cause people to lie to the people closest to them, and this ruins trust. Friends can be lost and family members can be hurt by drugs although they are not doing them themselves. Think before you get yourself involved in something that has so many consequences.

I lost a lot that day I confronted them, but I have learnt so much more from moving on. You can’t believe everything someone tells you just because you will always tell them the truth. The world doesn’t work like that sadly. And sometimes you have to trust your instincts when they tell you that something is up and that things just don’t add up as they should be. Drugs play with people’s lives and people’s minds, and it’s wrong. People are affected by them whether they wish to admit it or not. Trust yourself, that’s the only person who will definitely tell you the truth.

For more info on drugs and drug taking, check out a couple of ReachOut fact sheets on the subject...

• Drugs (Fact sheet)
• Managing Pressure to take drugs (Fact sheet)
• Worried about someone's drug use (Fact sheet)