Finding someone right for you

Getting to Know Yourself

Being happy with yourself, your life and interests can help you feel content whether you are in a relationship or not. Being "single" offers a great opportunity to get to know yourself better. It offers a chance to follow your interests and/or try new things. You may want to try spending a bit of time alone doing things you enjoy. This may be helpful in thinking about what you may want if you choose to have a boy/girlfriend.

Being happy with yourself may help to make future relationships better as you are more likely to have confidence in what you want from the relationship. It can be helpful to consider what you would want from a relationship beforehand too.

Meeting Someone I Like

Everyone has different tastes and interests and we are attracted to people for a number of different reasons. Some of these may be:

• The way someone looks.
• We are friends with them.
• We have common interests.
• We have similar ways of thinking about things.
• A combination of these things.

Meeting someone you are attracted to may be a case of doing the things you enjoy. Chances are, that someone you are looking for likes doing the same things too, so you will have something in common to share. It may be that you:

• Play sport.
• Paint/do some form of art.
• Volunteer.
• Play an instrument in a band.
• Learn to dance.
• Horse ride.
• Hang out at the youth centre.
• Surf.

Meeting people can be tough. Try not to be too hard on yourself if you don't meet someone when you want to. Remember being single is OK and it can be really fun and it definitely does not mean there is something wrong with you.

Some people meet others over the Internet. If you plan to meet face-to-face, it is a good idea to be cautious of giving out personal details such as where you live, your phone numbers etc. If you decide to meet someone unknown to you, it is a good idea to meet where there are other people, such as cinema, café, and shopping centre. It may also be a good idea to have a friend near by. Some people are not always honest and may send false information or may not have your best interests at heart.

More Information

You may want to check out the factsheets on the left hand side of the page.

Acknowledgement

The information provided here is based on "An Intergalactic Guide to Relationships" A project initiated by Central Coast Health.

Thanks to FPA Health for editing this factsheet.