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Living with someone with depression

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Living with someone who experiences depression is not easy at times. When they are struggling it can often be hard to know what to do and say. It is not uncommon to have feelings of anger, guilt or fear and feel overwhelmed from time to time.

As a family member or friend of someone who is experiencing depression it is important that you look after yourself.

Learn about depression

Having an idea about how someone is affected by depression may help you to understand why they behave in the way that they do. This may help you separate the illness from the person and realise that the person's mood or behaviour may not be directed at you personally.

Put yourself first occasionally

This can be hard and you may find that you feel guilty when you do something for yourself. This is important however. Making time to do things that you enjoy is an important part of looking after yourself and your family member.

Take time out

Having time away from your family member can also be important and allow you to relax. Try to spend some time doing what you enjoy. You may want to play a sport, hang out with friends, listen to music or go for a walk.

Talk about what they find helpful

Make conversations about depression easy and open. Try asking about what helps them when they are feeling depressed.

By talking openly, you are letting the person know about your love and support for them. You may like to talk about what you have read and ask how they feel about it.

Support activities

If you are living or caring for someone who is experiencing depression you may sometimes feel you are different or alone. Friends may not understand what it is like for you.

Talking to people who are in a similar situation may be helpful. The Association for the Relatives and Friends of the Mentally Ill (ARAFMI) or Carers Australia may be a good place to find some support.

Talk to someone

It may be helpful to talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. Friends and family are people who might be helpful to speak with.

If you feel like you are having trouble doing day to day things it may be helpful to see someone like a psychologist or counsellor.

To find a doctor or mental health professional see the beyondblue Directory of Medical and Allied Health Practitioners in Mental Health. Or, you can also find a psychologist through the Australian Psychological Society Find a Psychologist Service.

You may also want to ask friends or your local doctor if they can recommend anyone.

Acknowledgements

Thanks to Beyond Blue for editing this fact sheet.

  • This content was created by Reach Out Australia.
  • Last updated 06 Sep 10

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2 Comments

Cassie :)

6 months ago

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Hey depgirl,


Depression is a tough, tough thing to go through, both for the person with it and for the loved ones of the person. You sound like a really good person for wanting things to be easier for your mum.

Would maybe having someone to chat to about things help? There are some carer support groups out there and in the above factsheet a couple of organisations were mentioned. If you have a treatment team, maybe her having a chat to one of the professionals treating you might also help?

Perhaps encouraging/reminding her to take some time out for herself to chill and do the things she likes to do? Sometimes having some respite can be really beneficial.

You could also direct her to facsheets like these or other ones more suitable for adults/parents- maybe she would find some of the information helpful and relevant for her.

Take care,
Cassie

depgirl

6 months ago

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My depression and resulting behaviour is driving my mam out of her mind. What can I do/she do to make things easier for her please?

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