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Hey marcjacobs!

Hi,

im a 14 yr old girl and i believe i have anxiety.

It started off when i had like an addiction to prescription drugs..i wasnt addicted because i could stop myself but i refused to, it was my way of dealing with difficult situations i.e. school, family etc.

my parents obviously did not know ofcourse because they would litarally kill me. These prescription drugs obviously ran out. i was fine... for a while. I got panic attacks, heaps but at the time i didnt know they were panic attacks untill i told someone my story and they said they were panic attacks. and i also did some ressearch. Things became to much and i had the urge for more drugs! i cant go to a councilor because the councilor at my school as be known to always call parents, my anxiety got worse because my own friends make jokes about me committing suicide and that im going to turn out like amy whinehouse. It just didnt help. i told my mum i had anxiety and that i wanted to go to a psychologist but she said i had no reason to go and i couldnt tell her that i was on drugs. WHAT DO I DO???

marcjacobs

p.s. my friend has told me to come here for help :)  

Hey xX_MaTT_Xx
 
It sounds like you are going through some pretty tough stuff.  If you are feeling "hopeless, lost and alone" to the extent that it is interfering with your everyday life (and it sounds like by avoiding your friends this summer and hanging out alone all the time, that this may be the case) then you need to speak to someone about everything you are going through. From what you have said you sound very unhappy, this is not a good space to start a new relationship in.  If you are not happy in your everyday life then finding a girl will not make you happy either.  You need to speak to someone who can help you work out why you are feeling so bad and help you come up with ways to start feeling good again.
 
There are plenty of people out there who can help you come up with strategies so you don't have to feel "hopeless and alone" any more and so that you can start having fun hanging out with your friends again.  Talking to someone about everything you are going through will also help you sort through your feelings, get things into perspective and release tension.  A professional will help you to work through why your interactions with girls are making you feel so bad.
 
Local GPs and school counsellors are awesome.  These professionals are great because they are trained to deal with a wide range of issues and can refer you to services in your local area that will be able to help you.  Check out these fact sheets with heaps of handy info about seeing your local GP or school counsellor: http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/local-doctor-or-general-practitioner-gp, http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/school-counsellors
 
headspace are another really cool service,  set up especially for young people.  The are super friendly and have a range of services all under one roof.  You can find out heaps more info about headspace including where your nearest office is and even take a virtual tour here at their website: http://www.headspace.org.au/
 
If you don't feel up to speaking to someone face to face why not give kids help line a call on 1800 55 1800.  They are super friendly,100% confidential and anonymous and available anytime of the night or day free from a land line or pay phone.  They are happy to talk about any issue no matter how big or small it may seem so I hope you give them a try.
 
Kids help line and head space also provide free web and email counselling at their websites. Here are the links: http://www.kidshelp.com.au/teens/, https://www.eheadspace.org.au/.
 
We promise you are not alone in this - you just need to find someone who will listen to you and help you with everything ou are going through.
 
Keep reaching out
 
Roisin - RO Crew
 

hey i'm 14, my life's "great" i'm rich i have everything but i don't have any one who loves me every time i seem to find a girl who likes me she either ends up hating me or awkwardly saying sorry i just want to be friends which actually happened today in fact. I've been talking to a girl for a long time and a few days ago we stayed up till 3 on the phone and she even told me she loved me and for a while i was actually happy and felt good but today she told me she ment as a friend which has just crushed me i guess and on top of that my parents are on my back about trying at school and how theyre not wasting there money on private school when i can just go to publlic school because i dont try. i just feel so hopeless and lost im even feeling as if im drifting away from my close friends and i feel so alone. i spent the whole holidays sitting in my room thinking about how stupid and crap i am i feel so bad inside its as if im meant to be alone or something and now im on this site trying to get some help no one will care...no one will ever care

i don't have any friends and that makes me sad but i don't really see how anyone can help with that. (Mod edit- Please see guidelines)

hi
i'm a 26 year old girl with borderline personality disoder. i'm in a hard relationship where my patner(43) ( we have been together for 6 years) works away and when he is back he acts like i don't exist unless he wants something (done for him or his daughter 17). his daughter hates me and goes out of her way to make my life hell whether its from verbal or physical abuse. i feel so lost. i can't leave him cause there is no-one out there that will want me. i'm fat and useless and everyone around me seem to have a issue with me. i don''t know what i am meant to be doing with myself anymore. i need help but i don't know who i can go to and talk with. 

Hi,
I was in an abusive relationship from which I had 3 beautiful children.  I made the wrong choice in coping with my situation and turned to drugs and crime.  My drug addiction was ridiculous and lasted about 3 years.  I ended up in jail.  My brutal ex husband looked after the children.  I spent a lot of years being very angry and blaming everyone else but I have realised my choices were the only blame.  Recently I was told my youngest daughter who is 16 this week was not his.  Apparently DNA testing was carried out and he sent her to my mums and then said he did not want her back.  She is now living with me and yesterday, fathers day took it's toll.  She ended up on top of me hitting me but stopped when she realised what she was doing.  I am very hurt and I have no idea what to do.  I understand she needs to speak to someone however, I cannot force this with her.  I love my daughter and want her life to become a happy one but at 16, how can I expect her to accept what has happened and move on?  I cannot tolerate violence and really hope someone has something that may help us. 

Hi Gerard,

I really am sorry to hear about all that you have been though recently.

Have you had a look at our get help section? It has loads of information on how to get the best possible help to suit your specific needs.  Here is the link:

http://au.reachout.com/find/getting-help/who-can-help-you

Here is another link you may find helpful, it has some suggestions on managing grief:

http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/suggestions-for-managing-grief

Please if you do feel like talking to someone about everything you are going through do not hesitate to call Lifeline on 13 11 14.  Thats what they are there for :).

All the Best
Roisin - RO Crew

Hi
I've had a drinking problem for more than 20Y now
Since my wife died 20 months ago; it has become destructive to the extent that I cannot function properly - Higyne diet etc - I just sit at home and suffer angziety  - Cure is to get blind obviously Medication no longer works - need to take * 5 the recommended dose I detoxed about 3 years ago - "easy" - I celebrated by having just 1/2 drinks [No prize for guessing the result]
I reallise this is something only I can fix But if I can get a little help - I think I stand a chance
Many thanks - Gerard