Q: I had sex like 9 times and I never get the girl pregnant, are there any possibilities I might not be able to make a baby?
A: There are a lot of different reasons why the sex you’re having may not be resulting in a pregnancy, but without having much more detail from you it’s going to be hard for me to narrow it down.
If you are not using condoms, do you know if the female partner(s) you are with are using contraceptives? They might be on a hormonal method (such as the pill, rod or injection) which prevents pregnancy. Alternatively, they may be taking emergency contraception (sometimes called ‘the morning after pill’) to reduce the chances of pregnancy after you've had sex. It’s important to remember that women are most likely to fall pregnant when they are ovulating, which happens over a 48 hour period.
Without knowing all the possible details, having sex 9 times and not resulting in a pregnancy is not at all unusual. Many couples who are actively trying to fall pregnant may find it takes them a year or more to conceive. If you are serious about wanting to have a baby, I suggest talking this through with your partner – it takes two to tango. If you’re just worried about whether you might be able to have a baby in the future, feel free to talk to a doctor – if they think there’s a chance you may have a low sperm count, they’ll be able to refer you for the appropriate tests, but this can be expensive.
All in all, don’t worry too much. There’s plenty of time to work out whether you want or can have a baby. In the meantime, remember to use condoms (even if the girl is on contraception) – it’s your best chance to protect yourself against unplanned pregnancies and STIs.
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Responses are written by Giverny Lewis, a 25 year old with a Masters in Sexual Health, who currently works in the area of HIV and sexual health. Giverny is not a GP or medical professional. Any specific sexual health concerns should be raised in direct consultation with your health professional.