The world is my room

Story By: Nikki Nikki

Nikki's bedroom was where she could be whoever she wanted to be. Learn how she stopped worrying about trends and started looking at the world as a big version of her bedroom.

Girl holding a world globe
In the end, individuality and being yourself is what happens to make you "cool".
I have this compulsive obsession with my bedroom. It's about the only place I can change around to suit myself. If I want the walls blue, then blue they will be, if I want photos of certain people up on my walls I put them there, if I want a certain song on I can put it on.

Up until year 11 at school, my room was the only place where I could be myself. There was a time in my life, which everyone goes through, where I was discovering myself (some say this is a never ending process). This particular stage in my life I let what surrounded me control who I was. Whatever music was in - I'd listen to, whatever clothes were in- I'd have. A lot of the time I wasn't even aware of what I was doing, all I knew was I was hardly ever comfortable around people nor was I confident.

At my school it was cool to wear certain clothes, listen to certain music, not be a part of the School Representative Council and not to do school work. Then we hit year 11, lots of changes began in my life. I looked at my life like it was my bedroom, I threw away what wasn't 'me'. I found myself subtley and politely distancing myself from 'friends' I couldn't trust or didn't feel comfortable around. I became proud of my involvement in the Student Representitive Council and started having an opinion without being afraid of speaking it. The more comfortable I became the more confident I was. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't someone without friends before this change, but with this change more people were drawn towards me.

We all get drawn to certain trends, which is fine, but it's important not to let it dictate who you are or what you believe in. I recommend looking at your life the same way as you might look at your bedroom. When I did this, I put in some of my taste and personality and created the most comfortable place, all for me. In the end, individuality and being yourself is what happens to make you "cool".
Last reviewed: 16 February, 2014
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