What to do when you’re really worried about someone It can be really scary if you’ve noticed changes in how someone is behaving, including what they’re saying or doing (or not doing). If you’re not sure how to help them, try these tips as a starting point. START THE CONVERSATION Mention specific things you’ve noticed that you find worrying, like ‘You’re not playing footy anymore…is everything okay?’ If they talk with you about stuff that’s bothering them, listen without going into problem-solving mode. If they don’t want to talk, ask if there’s someone else they’d rather chat with. ENCOURAGE TO TAKE ACTION Suggest they write down how they’re feeling. Ask: ‘What could you do to feel better right now?’ and ‘How can I support you?’ Help them make a plan for the next 24 hours, including what they’ll do and who they’ll speak to. HELP THEM GET SUPPORT If they’re not ready to talk, tell them you understand and remind them you’re there for them. Offer to help them book an appointment with a GP or counsellor, or to call a helpline such as Lifeline, Kids Helpline or Suicide Callback Service. IN CASE OF EMERGENCY If you’re worried that they may be at risk right now, call an ambulance or contact your local Crisis Assessment and Treatment Team. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF Worrying about someone else can be stressful, so make sure you take care of yourself, too. Talk about how you’re feeling with someone you trust. If you need more support, speak to a counsellor, GP or helpline.