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Going through a friendship breakup is super stressful. It can make you feel angry, confused, hurt, jealous or disappointed. While it’s common for friendships to end, it can be really hard to cope with these changes. Luckily, there are steps you can take to improve the situation. Check out our top tips for getting through a friendship breakup.


Take a step back

One thing you can do to hit pause on the pain is to take a step back before you do anything. Firing off an angry text or turning up at their house uninvited to confront your friend might seem like a good idea at the time - but let’s be honest, you’ll definitely regret it later.

Giving yourself time to work out how you feel and what you want to do next will keep you feeling in control and way happier. Practising mindfulness or taking some time out from screens is a great way to give yourself space and peace. Everything seems heaps easier when you’re feeling zen!


Damage control

It’s more than likely that you’re going to bump into your ex-friend at some point - especially if they’re friends from school or work. If you feel comfortable and safe talking it out, tackling the reasons your friendship has ended can leave you both feeling more chill about any chance meetings. Having a chat where you both get to have your say on the dramas and put any baggage behind you is a super healthy way to say Bon Voyage to a friendship. Just because you can’t stay friends doesn’t mean you have to be on each other’s enemy lists.

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Think big picture

When we find ourselves in a tough spot it can be easy to get caught up in negative thoughts. Try to keep things in perspective by thinking about the reasons behind the friendship breakup. Maybe you don’t have as much in common these days, or maybe you’ve both found new groups of people that you want to spend more of your time with. It’s okay to feel upset about what’s going on, but try to keep the bigger picture in mind and see if there are any positive takeaways.


Get by with a little help

It can help to remind yourself what’s good about friendships - do this by spending some quality time with good, solid friends. Take some time to vent about the dramas, have a good ol’ fashioned cry and tell your peeps how they can get you back to feeling 100% again. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone IRL, hit up our forums - they’re full of awesome, supportive people who’ll get it.


Be kind to yourself

It’s often easy to forget to take care of yourself but in these situations there’s nothing more important! Take the time to be sad or angry or however you need to feel - without getting stuck in the negatives for too long. There are lots of different ways to practice self care, just find the one that works for you.

Above all, remind yourself that you are a good friend and you definitely will be able to make new friends in the future.

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