Cyberbullying : What is it and how to get help

i haven't exacly been cyber bullied but i do know that it is the wrong thing to do so if some one dose cyber bully you well why dont you just get rid of them because if you dont there gona keep doing it and if they make you upset talk to someone about it it

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Hi DellDell. Like i haven't been cyberbullied either (well what i know of) but i don't think it just that easy, ya can stop replying or using computers and phones but really i think it how far you'd go to make them stop.

Based on the number of stories we've heard I don't think it is always easy - just like managing problems with face to face bullies isn't easy - but there are things you can do and people you can turn to to get help - some suggestions are listed in the fact sheet.

Does anyone have practical tips of how they or friends have tackled cyberbullying?

:)

Heyy im jessie and i have been cyberbullied.
its started over my ex boyfriend say all this stuff about me to one of my good friends tht is going out with him now and then for 6 months she has bullied me. she hacked into my myspace and msn accounts and deleted all my friends and everything and then i went to the police but they did nothing at the time then one day me and the girl that had been bulling me got into a punch up at school and then after she got home she told my ex then he started threatening me so then my mum went to the police and they rang up there parents abd sat down and spoke to them and from then on she and he hasnt bullied me.

Hi Jessie-Dryw,

Welcome to  Reach Out!

We are so sorry to hear that you were bullied, and think you should be super proud of yourself for reaching our for help by telling your parents.

It's so fantastic that the police were able to help and that the bulling has now stopped :)

Thank you so much for sharing your story.  I'm sure it will inspire other young people going through similar issues:)

Once I was Cyber Bullied then I told my Mum straight away, then she went to the school.

The assistant principal sorted everything out, but I was left crying. Constable Phil came yesterday and talked us about cyber bullying.

I never want to be in a situation like that again.

My daughter 19 is being cyber bullied by 4 girls and now all their friends have joined in.... She called the police but unless she is threatened they wont do anything.  and their parents dont care because these people r in their 20's

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Hi Rainee,

I really am sorry to hear about what you and your daughter have been through.  Cyber bulling is never ok and can be realy scary for the person t s happenng to. 

Have you guys looked at the fact sheet above? It has some practical tips to stop cyber bullies.

We also have this fact sheet on bullying which has more tps on what you can do if you are being bullied.

http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/bullying-what-to-do-if-you-are-being-bullied

If you or your daughter would like to talk to someone about what you are going through please do not hesitate to call LifeLine on 13 11 14 (for the price of a local call).

All the Best
Roisin - RO Crew

3 weeks ago, I got a violent text message from 'a' friend, whom I was shocked upon. I felt so angry at the message, that I was driving 100KM/H in a 70 zone that I almost hit into a truck.

My niece recently took her own life. It wasn't until this occurred that the adults in her life realised that she was being bullied. She had a falling out with some friends and her former boyfriend. What followed was a barrage of messages across several networking sites and in her email. In the last few days of her life the messages in her inbox relating to the derogatory messages and postings numbered in the thousands. This was in addition to the humiliation they subjected her to in person.

What I want to say to kids out there is do get help for yourself or those you care about. If you don't get help or understanding the first time keep trying. There are so many people out there who are willing to help. Parents, teachers, the police, friends, relatives, perhaps your sporting coach or a family friends. There is always someone to help. There is no such thing as alone.

I use to go to an all girls school, i wish i never did now. I use to be excited about going to school meeting up with my friends and having a good day. I have this best friend and we finally found a group and made really good friends with them. Until they all turned sour. So we moved groups, but of  course they didnt like that. They new that they couldnt get to my best friend by hurting her feelings but they could to me. They started sending me mean emails telling me that they are going to bash me calling me a fat c**** and my mum is a looser or im not cool because i wasnt into the hole smoking, drug sex scene like they were but its funny because they are all massive girls and i no im not fat but when i go to the beach i feel like i just want to curl up and die because i feel so uncomfortable in a bikini now all because of those f*ck*ng low lifes.  i tried not to look at the emails. Until one day i got off the bus and there they all were standing there waiting for me. I ran across the street and they where yelling stuff out to me. One girl was holing the other one down because she wanted to charge at me. Ive never told anyone. But when i  did i felt so much better. I told my best friend what was happening and boy did she take care of it. ahaha. 

i got a really abusive message on facebook recently from a friend of my boyfriend who just happens to live about 30meters from my house.
he talked about how he was going to come over to my house and destroy my life unless i gave his friend back to him gong on and on about how he would make me pay if i chose to stay with my boyfriend. I was in queensland with my fmily at the time. i blocked him from having any communication on facebook with me ever again and sent the email to my boyfriend to deal with as it was his friend who i havd never really seen for more than 5 minutes before ever, i didnt even know there was a problem until this. Im a very small thin girl and he is like 6'7 and bulky. after the holiday i came home and im absolutly petrified being in my own house. i could report him on facebook? but then they might just tell him what the complaint against him is about, and if that happened im not sure id be here next week. So basically im scared everytime in at home especially when its just me here so thats not good. but reporting it to facebook or the police could potentially make things so much worse and more dangerous for me??
Help!! please give advice
im one very troubled stressed out emotional girl at the moment :S

Please I need help an 60 year old man on face book is cyber bullying my 12 year old nephew and I dont know what to do.  He is being so graphic and to be honest it started because my nephew put on a friends comment  wtf?  this guy is applying some horrible and sexual stuff and he calls him self a "Chaplin"  We reporting him to face book only to have him get a new face book account and start all over again.  Please can any one help us.  i mean this guy even hunt down my nephew address his school and has threatened to go there and "teach him a lesson" and "Make him a man"  Any help will be grateful

Trac,

I have had a similar prob myself.  Get access to your nephew face book account and set the account to accounts > Basic Directory Information. Reset the settings to what you think is safe for you. Also let your nephew know what settings that you are setting so he/she can see if the settings that you set are the right settings for you. Also see why your nephew is adding online and sadly but safely monitor his people he/she is adds online. Beware of and photos that go online of your nephew. 
 
hope this helps you Trac.

This link hopefull.

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Hi Trac,

I really am sorry to hear about everything that your nephew and his family have been through.

I would advise that if you are worried about the saftey of your nephew that you should contact the police.  Threatening people is illegal and not ok, whether it is done face to face or online, makes no difference.

As well as contacting the police I would keep face book informed about this person.

Your nephew may want to change the profile setings of his face book account to private so that only people that he has pre aproved can acess any of his information and block this person from his account so that they can never access any of his details.

facebook can advise you on how do do this.

@ Frankie, Hi, welcome to RO, thanks for sharing your advise :)

ive been syber bullyed for almost 2-3 months i havent told any 1 i thoghut i could deal with it but i cant i know the persons name and have his facebook and all and he lives in tawoomba, (Mod edit- please see guidelines)

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Hi Chriso122,

I am so sorry to hear about everything that you are going through.  Bullying is never ok and no one ever asks or deserves to be bullied.  I hope some of the tips in the above fact sheet will help you out with this situation.

Remember if you feel like talking to someone about all of this kids help line are really friendly and avilable 24/7.  You can get them on 1800 55 1800.