I'm always angry

Do you feel like you're angry all the time? Find out about common causes for ongoing anger, understand when it becomes a problem, and learn what you can do about it.

This can feel like:

  • Constant frustration
  • Not being able to be happy
  • Wanting to lash out
  • Feeling withdrawn and disconnected

What it means when you’re feeling angry all the time

Anger is something which everyone experiences, but it can become hard to deal with when:

  • You can’t shake your anger and you’re in a constant bad mood
  • You express your anger in a way that hurts yourself or someone else

There are a few different reasons why people can’t seem to get rid of their anger and fall into a constant bad mood. A lot of us have never really learned how to manage or respond to angry feelings. That means when things do happen to make us angry, we bottle our feelings up and the anger sticks with us.

It’s important to try and work on identifying why you are angry, so that you can then figure out strategies to cope with your angry feelings.

When anger causes a problem

When you feel angry for an extended period of time, it can have a bad impact on your emotional health. That’s because when you hold on to negative emotions like anger, it prevents you from experiencing happy feelings – all the negativity you are feeling blocks them out.

If you’re not dealing with your anger, you don’t have control over it. The other big problem with being angry for a long time is that it will come out in unexpected ways, or cause you to lash out. It’s really important that anger is expressed in a way that isn’t going to be harmful to yourself or someone else. If you feel angry all the time, it’s worth doing something about it.

What to do if you’re always angry

If you are always angry, it’s important to try and figure out the cause, so that it doesn’t stay a problem. We’re hardly ever ‘just’ angry – it’s usually a reaction to feeling hurt, upset, disappointed, confused, afraid etc. Try and work out if any of these causes apply to your own anger - it may help to talk it through with a good friend or family member. Then you can work on strategies to solve the problem, or cope with what is happening.

If your anger is impacting on your day to day life, or the reasons that you are angry are particularly complicated, it could be really useful to talk to an expert, like a counsellor. They can help you process all your feelings about what’s going on. 

What can I do now?

  • Grab a notebook and write down what makes you angry.
  • Recognise that anger passes, and wait before making any big decisions.
  • If your anger is getting you down, it might be worth talking to your doctor.
Last reviewed: 27 April, 2016
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