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Checking in with your family and friends and asking how they're going is important, but can be tricky.

To make the conversation easier, you’ve got to figure out four things: the right location, the most constructive questions to ask, the best ways to respond and what to do afterwards. 

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When you're worried about someone, sometimes the best thing you can do is listen and let them know you're there for them.

Here’s a few ways you can be a good mate to someone going through a rough time:

  • Find a nice quiet time and place to chat– and don’t force it if they say they don’t feel like talking
  • Ask them open ended questions, rather than just telling them what you think. When people are going through something tough, often, they just want to be understood.
  • Offer your support, but don’t try and solve their problems unless they ask for your advice.
  • Ask what you can do to make them feel better and give them support.
  • Tell a parent or teacher if you’re afraid they might not be in a safe place.

What can I do now?