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Being LGBTQI+ in a rural, remote or regional area can be awesome, but it can also leave you feeling isolated, different and alone. To help navigate these issues, we chatted to a bunch of young people from around Australia who identify as LGBTQI+ and got their thoughts on what country life is really like for them.

Insider tip #1: It’s not all sunshine and happy times, but sometimes it is!

There are lots of perks that come with growing up in the ‘bush’, compared to living in the city, including the outdoors lifestyle and way less traffic. However, being LGBTQI+ and rural can throw up some challenges that are tough to deal with, such as:

  • feeling isolated and lonely
  • not being able to relate to most other people
  • having limited access to sexual, mental and gender affirming health services
  • feeling like you can’t disclose your gender experience or sexuality for fear of a backlash.
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I felt so different and isolated from everyone else. – Sarah, 20, Berri

If you’re feeling this way, don’t worry, you’re not alone. There are lots of LGBTQI+ people living in the country though even if it might take a little extra effort to reach them. A great place to start is to google the words ‘rainbow’ or ‘LGBTQI’ along with your town’s name - this can the gateway to finding LGBTQI+ online and community groups, and also local youth services that are inclusive and welcoming for LGBTQI+ people.

Being alone sucks


Insider tip #2: Finding a date can be like Mission Impossible

We all know that the dating game is hella difficult; but if you identify as LGBTQI+, finding a partner in a country town can seem like Mission Impossible. Experts recommend checking out if there are any social groups in your area. A really good place to start is MeetUp, which has groups happening all over Australia and you can also search for LGBTQI+ groups on Facebook, if you can’t find one – start one!

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I find that a lot of LGBTIQI+ people in low-population areas find it hard to go on dates because there is a constant fear that word will get back to people you haven’t come out to, especially to family or friends. – Pete, 22, Nyngan

Mission impossible


Insider tip #3: Coming out can be tough, but you may be pleasantly surprised

Before coming out, you might be worried about how people will take the news. It’s not uncommon to feel this way, but you might be pleasantly surprised by their reactions.

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It was important to tell my family first, who initially were surprised. Then I told close friends, some whom had already guessed. Everyone was very supportive. - Sarah, 20, Berri

You might even find others who are going through the same thing as you.

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When coming out to a close friend, they were like, “That's cool. I'm pretty sure I'm trans and possibly demi-sexual…” it was really cool, and now we have each other to talk to. - Anna, 16, Benalla

And, you may even be able to help others out, which is awesome.

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Now that I’ve been out for some time and am open about my sexuality, I can be an advocate for the community, and can support and help others. - Sarah, 20, Berri

Nervous


Insider tip #4: Get some expert advice

Here’s an expert’s guide on where to get help and what support services are available:

  1. There are dozens of LGBTQI+ support groups from all over Australia converging online, especially on Facebook. Just google your town’s name plus the LGBTQI acronym and you should hopefully find one near you.
  2. Keep an eye out for the Rainbow Tick. The Rainbow Tick is a national initiative for recognising organisations that are inclusive.
  3. If you’re based in NSW, hit up ACON. They can help you out with health issues, counselling, care coordination, substance support, and peer education.
  4. Talk it out. If you want to chat with someone to explore what’s going on in your life, QLife is a nationwide telephone and web-based, peer-supported service for all ages. It’s available every day, from 3 pm to midnight.

 

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Insider tip #5: You do you

The best advice is often that from someone who’s been there themselves, so we asked a bunch of LGBTIQI+ people for their best piece of advice for anyone living in a rural, remote or regional community and feeling isolated, different or alone.

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Time is your friend! Don’t rush to tell people, but also don’t feel like you can’t. I think you would be surprised that a lot of people will be really supportive and love you, no matter what. – Jordan, 19, Longreach

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Don’t ever feel pressured to come out. Coming out is an individual process, and there is no best time or way of doing it. – Sarah, 20, Berri

And remember:

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The main thing is to know yourself, do your research, and understand that it isn’t wrong to be in love with someone of the same gender or to think that your sex and gender aren’t aligned.…You do you. – Jack, 24, Parkes

Eat to that

What can I do now?

  • Read more about sexuality and gender here.
  • Check out this handy website listing LGBTQI+ services located right across the nation.
  • Head to your region’s Headspace Facebook page for info about social events in your area.
  • Check out http://radaustralia.org.au/, which is dedicated to connecting LGBTIQ+ people to inclusive services and support.